Don't be alarmed.
Once upon a time, there was a man who was very attracted to a particular woman.
The more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to
her… and that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and
affection for her.
But there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn't tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes she would say things like "You are so important to me" and
"I'm glad that you're in my life"… but nothing ever progressed past
the "friendship" stage.
Something was wrong with the picture.
She wasn't acting like she was "falling in love", but as a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself… and
the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of "screwing
things up" by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to
spend with him.
So he made a bold move.
After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man
finally arrived at the conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT,
that she would feel the same way.
He TOLD HER how he felt.
He confessed that he was in love, and that he would do anything to be with her.
She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said "Thank you… I
really mean that… but I don't want to mess up our friendship… you're
too important to me…".
This only confused the man more.
Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something?
Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long-term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn't love him, and was trying to give him a hint?
Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY
let her know how he felt?
He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with
her… so he bought her a gift, wrote her a long letter… again
confessing his feelings.
And then the unthinkable happened…
She didn't reply.
He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very busy, and said "I'll try to give
you a call soon, I have to go…"
…but he never got a call back.
Over the following months, the man tried desperately to understand
what went wrong… and what happened.
THE END
OK, I'm back.
Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and not take up writing romance novels...
Now, let's talk about that story.
This is a story that resonates at a deep level because you can IDENTIFY with it.
Why?
Because we've all been there in one way or another… and many of us
have been there OFTEN in our lives.
In this particular situation I think there is a solution, and it lies
in understanding a secret that women know but MEN DON'T.
The secret is that if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his
attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her
BACKFIRE.
In other words, they not only DON'T WORK, they actually make things
WORSE, because they'll make you a "good friend" or she won't even want
to be your friend… but will disappear forever!
So, don't confess your love BEFORE you had the chance to create attraction.
Pace yourself.
You might be thinking that building attraction is something that
doesn't come to you naturally. And that's ok, because you can actually
learn it!
Take some time to invest in yourself and learn some basic ideas about
how to build attraction and you'll see results right away.
In Deangelo's eBook Double Your Dating, he teaches several techniques
that you can use to make sure you create attraction with that special
woman. And I'm not talking about manipulating her, or lying to her…
but learning a different way of expressing yourself (through words,
body language and attitude) that will make her see you as the man of
her dreams… NOT as a best friend.
If you want to know EXACTLY how to handle it when you like a girl and
want her to be attracted to you, go check out David Deangelo's eBook
right now.
It took me a long time to figure this one out, and it turns out that
most guys need to do the exactly OPPOSITE of what they THINK they
should do. Find out the solution in Deangelo's eBook right now: Double
Your Dating, Email me at jamiebonded@gmail.com.
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