5 Ways to Tell If He's Falling in Love With You

By Darlene Peltz
There he was, across the parking lot, walking toward me. Our eyes locked and my heart went crazy. Immediately, without a doubt, I "knew." He's the one! It was love at first sight!

This is how many women fall in love. You just know, it's like magic, and you never want this feeling to end. But then, reality kicks in and you have to look at it from his point of view - did he feel that magic jolt, that OMG moment when he "knew" you are the one for him?

It takes two be a couple - how do you go from that magic moment, to forever? There are at least a couple of things that have to be thought about. We all want love and we want it to be forever - we need to feel love in return so lets look at a few ways you can tell if he's falling in love with you, too.

-Knowing a person for several months and coming to know how they react to you and the world around you may be step number one. Does he encourage your hobbies - do you collect pewter elephants and he brings you one from each of his travels. Does he just love hockey but you prefer baseball - are you compelled to buy two tickets to see his favorite team play ( he can take a friend if you prefer not to go). It's about caring - doing nice things for each other.

-Loving a person through thick 'n thin, through good times and bad, through happy times and sad might be step number two. His company is going through hard times, he is offered a severance package to go quietly but now he has no income. She has to look after an aging parent and must take time away from you several times a week. He got a promotion with his firm but it means he has to relocate, with a big raise. She makes more money than you do and she is willing to foot the cost for a vacation in the sun - with you. This is about - will you love me if or when - don't be fooled into thinking that these things don't apply. In one version or another they all do.

-Knowing if you two are together because you "fit" is one of the hardest questions to answer and works for step number three. When you are with each other do you have fun, laugh at the same things and feel excited when sharing intimate moments. Is your partnership happy and calm - you make each other feel loved and want to be together most of the time but you also feel safe and need to spend time with friends and the trust is there to allow that to happen.

-Being able to talk with your partner about anything and everything openly without fear of criticism or anger is step number four. Couples that have this working for them will feel good about who they are as people and that they matter and their feelings are important. Trusting each other in this way brings you closer as a couple. You know that what you discuss with each other is for your ears alone and neither of you will break that trust. You feel safe.

-When you ask to have something done for you does your partner respond even when what you ask might not be right up there with his top ten important things in life? When he needs a ride home because his truck broke down do you do everything in your power to pick him up at the right time. If you ask him to go to a feng shui party with you and what he really wants to do is meet the guys for a cold beer and watch the ball game, does he go with you? This would be about proof - and don't we all need that sometime, just to feel that we are important and loved.

Working at your love relationships might be the hardest work of all. Anyone that tells you that your relationship should just work is crazy and is probably not in a very good one at that. You will have to put your time in or it won't continue to work - there are problems needing solving, there are disagreements needing a compromise, and there are the everyday things that bring stress along for the ride.

In other words, how committed are you to making your relationship the most important aspect of your life? And yes, love at first sight does happen, and yes, it can last forever - but not without a lot of loving and creative effort from both partners. Have faith in each other and make it work.

"Faith can move mountains, but don't be surprised if God hands you a shovel." Author unknown.