“How To Initiate Sex Without Ever Being Rejected”

 

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Before you can ever worry about whether or not the sex will

be good (or, hopefully, great), or any of the other issues that I talk

about in my blog, the first step will always involve someone

starting things up. Between the time that you are thinking about

sex and actually having sex there is always this bridge you must

cross of INITIATING sex.

After all, if you can’t start the car, you can’t go for a

drive—and if you can’t get your woman turned on and “in the

mood,” then talking about the rest of what’s going on in your sex

life is a waste of time.

For most guys, this can be a pretty big issue because, unlike

any other aspect of becoming a confident and powerful

lover—initiating sex is the point where you risk “rejection.”

And rejection sucks.

But, as always, “knowledge is power,” and if you can get a

few simple ideas into your head and learn a few basic little things

that you can do, this never has to be an issue again and you will

be completely comfortable getting physical at any time with your

partner.

There are basically only two major situations where initiating

sex is an issue—

Situation #1 : The First Time You Have Sex With

A Woman

This is obviously a special circumstance because there are

all sorts of things going on that will determine whether or not you

are rejected that will not really be an issue after you get past that

first time.

These circumstances mostly include things that have

nothing to do with sex… like whether or not she trusts you enough

to be alone with you. Remember—for women, first-time sex is a

very different experience than for men. Because we are much

bigger and stronger and more aggressive than they are, they have

legitimate fears for their safety if they don’t know you well.

Another big issue that she may have regarding first-time sex

is her “reputation.”

Unfortunately, we live in a world with a very powerful double

standard. And chances are, no matter how cool and liberal you

may think you are (or conservative and closed minded for that

matter) you probably feel differently about men who regularly have

sex on the first date than you do about women who regularly have

sex on the first date.

Now I’m not placing any ethical judgment on it either way. I

have my opinions and other people can have theirs—but the

bottom line is, for women, having sex for the first time is a big

issue because she knows that you might lose respect for her

afterwards if she “gives in” too easily. This is simply her reality,

regardless of what YOUR opinion might be.

And, to be truthful, first-time sex is a special circumstance

for the man too.

You are much more likely to be nervous, to be unsure of

whether or not she is turned on, or if she likes you and trusts you

enough— and these issues and a bunch of other stuff will be

swirling around in your head.

They will affect the way you perform sexually, and they will

affect your ability to confidently initiate the action.

To be continued…