Young or Old: Does It Make a Difference?

People are sexual beings from birth to death. Throughout life, people are sexually
expressive, even if they are not sexually active. Children “play doctor” to explore
sexuality, or masturbate for a sexual release. Teens experiment with “heavy
petting” and sometimes with intercourse.
Many adults believe that young people shouldn't be having sex, even though
many of them experimented during their own teenage years. In fact, although
some parents today had sex in their teen years, they still tell their children to wait
until they are over 18 or married.
So when is the right time for people to start having sex? I believe that people are
too young to have sex if they can't deal with the physical and emotional
consequences of sex. But that's all very individual. There are some 16-year-olds
who can deal with having sex, and, on the other hand, there are some 30-year-olds who still can't. The best time to start having sex is when:
• you feel ready and you're confident sex is the right thing for you.
• you will use birth control and condoms responsibly every time you have sex.
• you would be able to know what to do if an unintended pregnancy or sexually
transmitted disease did occur.
• you can evaluate your partner to see if you are compatible.
• you will be able to cope with your emotions, knowing if you need to be in love
to have sex, and able to accept it if your partner loves you forever, or if your
partner hits the road immediately after orgasm.
Maybe you think that teens and twentysomethings have tons of sex because they
are so young, virile, and sexually charged. However, that assumption is not
always true. Many young people are singles, so they don't have anyone to have
sex with.
The good news about growing up is that you also grow up sexually. More men
last longer and more women enjoy orgasms as they get older. The more you have
sex, the more you learn about sex, and the more amazing your sex becomes.
Getting older and wiser has its benefits in bed too!
The biggest factors that affect the frequency of sex in your life have to do with the
changes in your life. As a teen, you probably still lived at home, with little
privacy for sexual encounters. Even after you started living on your own, dorm
rooms or shared apartments also made it difficult for those oh-so-intimate
moments. Adults usually have the most time and privacy for sex. Yet as you
become more established in life (for example, as part of a two-career couple with
children) you may often be too busy or too tired to find time for sex. Therefore,
throughout your life, your sex life will constantly be changing. Young or old, you
can have amazing sex, as long as you have the willing partner, the time, the place,
and the ability.