By Madi Magdy
Love relationships arise as a result of mutual affection and admiration between the two hearts and souls of the partners. Some may fall in love at first sight, others may soak up some time to get in love and this is more rational because it gives a period of time to think the matter and analyze the characteristics of the person you like. You need to know what he or she does in bad mood situations, how will he or she act in troubles and problems and to what extent will they affect you in an argument or a serious chat. Love relationships start sweet and end pungent and I truly believe in that. Based on my experience and knowledge about relationship sneak peeks, crypts and complications, I was able to extract, provide and approve ten main moves or actions that may affect your relationship (On a worse basis) and may result in killing or distorting the love.
1- Neglecting small affairs and things. It is true, neglecting small things and remembrances in a relationship may torture it as these small things are the real forming factors of the bigger and the sweeter things in a relationship. Like for example if you forgot to announce and believe in the annual celebration of your relationship formation day, this might turn your partner angrily especially if he or she was expecting you to be so eagerly ready for it. So you should work on that, remember every small and big thing that will cheer your partner up, remember every sweet memory and get it back live again.
2- Overrated Jealousy. I had this characteristic before and it ruined my relationship dangerously before I was luckily able to save it and fix it again. It is so bad to be so blind regarding your partner's action because overrated jealousy is also a matter of doubt and suspect in your lover moves and actions. You always want your partner to be in your line of sight and you never like to see him or her with other persons especially from the opposite gender. It acts as a great danger on a relationship between couples. To overcome overrated jealousy as I did, you should believe in three points: Your partner, your self esteem and your soul. Being able to believe in your partner will give you a secure feeling because your partner just love you ONLY and others are others, he or she chose to be with you ONLY and they love you so much, you are an amazing person, you should believe and be proud of that. Being able to believe in your self esteem will give you a huge boost to be proud of yourself and your abilities and will encourage you to fix and overcome your disabilities or disadvantages. Being able to believe in your soul will make you ask yourself many questions such as: Is my lover a property? No! I do not own him or her because I can not own a human. This question for example will relieve your overrated jealousy accordingly.
3- Betrayal. One of the worst moves ever, if you betray your partner, he or she will lose complete interest in you and more probably would break up from you. You might have your reasons for betraying your partner such as feeling uninterested in your partner but in the same time, afraid to hurt him or her saying that you lost interest in him, so you continue with him through a fake relationship where your body might be with him or her but your mind is with another one completely. So you should never cheat on your partner, be faithful in your love, choose your partner carefully and avoid being driven by the externalities of a character. Be deep, wise and mindful.
4- Bad mood reflections. All of us surely have good and bad moments in our daily life but we might differ in the point of reflection of bad mood from one person to another. You can be in a bad mood and surprisingly you may shout in the face of your partner saying an unconscious word or sentence like "Get out of my face right now!" This will surely embarrass your lover who came to ask you about your mood and surely was not happy seeing you in a bad mood. This also is dangerous and lead to the loss of interest in a relationship. Reversely, talk to your partner about your bad mood, the reason that led you to that, he or she will be the best good listener to you, he or she will be all ears while trying to sort your problem out.
5- Quarreling. Quarreling loudly with your partner is a negative move especially in the public, people will keep watching you and both of you will be embarrassed and unconsciously rude. Reversely, discuss and talk with your partner in a cool civilized way, do not raise your voice, keep the issue between you and him/her because these issues are ought to be private.
6-Lies. Lying to your partner means that you do not prefer to talk to your partner about some issues and that will surely raise a question in your partner's mind which is "If you do not want to tell me then whom are you going to tell? Am I not your favorite and most beloved person? You know what this question raising will lead to, of course. So, never lie to your partner, even telling him a nasty truth will be better than lying softly to him or her.
7-Ignore. Ignoring your lover is one of the most fatal mistakes in a relationship. When you ignore your partner's call or message, this will be really bad, unless you had an urgent reason for that, and honestly, it appears clearly whether you are ignoring him or her with an intention or you are doing that because of an urgent event that may have happened to you at that moment. To avoid that, never ignore your partner, be a friendly and an understanding person, respect your lover wishes and needs, be in a continuous contact with your lover to make him or her feel safe, secure and happy.
8-Beating. If you slapped your partner, you will lose him. No more No less. I actually do not have an experience about that but I am pretty sure that this will lead to an instant break up especially when there is nothing official between both of you such as marriage.
9-Intolerance. If you are a kind of person who do not tolerate easily, you might find it difficult to deal with your partner especially when he or she repeats the same thing that led you to that intolerance at the first time. Your heart is closed and your soul is dominating, which of course is a drawback of a relationship. To heal that, work on yourself, get a therapy, try to be a tolerate person, do Yoga [Yoga is excellent in this situation]. Fill your time with pure and clear tolerant mood and be an understanding person.
10-Humiliation. Most humans are so sensitive to humiliation. Being in a relationship is supposed to make someone feel good about themselves. It should increase their confidence and self-worth. Being made to feel stupid or small is the opposite of what a relationship should do for a person. If you humiliate your partner in the public, you can prepare yourself for the break up. So never humiliate your partner, neither in private nor public. Instead, fill him or her with confidence and be sweet to them to make them feel special.
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