10 Things That May Affect Your Relationship

By Madi Magdy
Love relationships arise as a result of mutual affection and admiration between the two hearts and souls of the partners. Some may fall in love at first sight, others may soak up some time to get in love and this is more rational because it gives a period of time to think the matter and analyze the characteristics of the person you like. You need to know what he or she does in bad mood situations, how will he or she act in troubles and problems and to what extent will they affect you in an argument or a serious chat. Love relationships start sweet and end pungent and I truly believe in that. Based on my experience and knowledge about relationship sneak peeks, crypts and complications, I was able to extract, provide and approve ten main moves or actions that may affect your relationship (On a worse basis) and may result in killing or distorting the love.

1- Neglecting small affairs and things. It is true, neglecting small things and remembrances in a relationship may torture it as these small things are the real forming factors of the bigger and the sweeter things in a relationship. Like for example if you forgot to announce and believe in the annual celebration of your relationship formation day, this might turn your partner angrily especially if he or she was expecting you to be so eagerly ready for it. So you should work on that, remember every small and big thing that will cheer your partner up, remember every sweet memory and get it back live again.

2- Overrated Jealousy. I had this characteristic before and it ruined my relationship dangerously before I was luckily able to save it and fix it again. It is so bad to be so blind regarding your partner's action because overrated jealousy is also a matter of doubt and suspect in your lover moves and actions. You always want your partner to be in your line of sight and you never like to see him or her with other persons especially from the opposite gender. It acts as a great danger on a relationship between couples. To overcome overrated jealousy as I did, you should believe in three points: Your partner, your self esteem and your soul. Being able to believe in your partner will give you a secure feeling because your partner just love you ONLY and others are others, he or she chose to be with you ONLY and they love you so much, you are an amazing person, you should believe and be proud of that. Being able to believe in your self esteem will give you a huge boost to be proud of yourself and your abilities and will encourage you to fix and overcome your disabilities or disadvantages. Being able to believe in your soul will make you ask yourself many questions such as: Is my lover a property? No! I do not own him or her because I can not own a human. This question for example will relieve your overrated jealousy accordingly.

3- Betrayal. One of the worst moves ever, if you betray your partner, he or she will lose complete interest in you and more probably would break up from you. You might have your reasons for betraying your partner such as feeling uninterested in your partner but in the same time, afraid to hurt him or her saying that you lost interest in him, so you continue with him through a fake relationship where your body might be with him or her but your mind is with another one completely. So you should never cheat on your partner, be faithful in your love, choose your partner carefully and avoid being driven by the externalities of a character. Be deep, wise and mindful.

4- Bad mood reflections. All of us surely have good and bad moments in our daily life but we might differ in the point of reflection of bad mood from one person to another. You can be in a bad mood and surprisingly you may shout in the face of your partner saying an unconscious word or sentence like "Get out of my face right now!" This will surely embarrass your lover who came to ask you about your mood and surely was not happy seeing you in a bad mood. This also is dangerous and lead to the loss of interest in a relationship. Reversely, talk to your partner about your bad mood, the reason that led you to that, he or she will be the best good listener to you, he or she will be all ears while trying to sort your problem out.

5- Quarreling. Quarreling loudly with your partner is a negative move especially in the public, people will keep watching you and both of you will be embarrassed and unconsciously rude. Reversely, discuss and talk with your partner in a cool civilized way, do not raise your voice, keep the issue between you and him/her because these issues are ought to be private.

6-Lies. Lying to your partner means that you do not prefer to talk to your partner about some issues and that will surely raise a question in your partner's mind which is "If you do not want to tell me then whom are you going to tell? Am I not your favorite and most beloved person? You know what this question raising will lead to, of course. So, never lie to your partner, even telling him a nasty truth will be better than lying softly to him or her.

7-Ignore. Ignoring your lover is one of the most fatal mistakes in a relationship. When you ignore your partner's call or message, this will be really bad, unless you had an urgent reason for that, and honestly, it appears clearly whether you are ignoring him or her with an intention or you are doing that because of an urgent event that may have happened to you at that moment. To avoid that, never ignore your partner, be a friendly and an understanding person, respect your lover wishes and needs, be in a continuous contact with your lover to make him or her feel safe, secure and happy.

8-Beating. If you slapped your partner, you will lose him. No more No less. I actually do not have an experience about that but I am pretty sure that this will lead to an instant break up especially when there is nothing official between both of you such as marriage.

9-Intolerance. If you are a kind of person who do not tolerate easily, you might find it difficult to deal with your partner especially when he or she repeats the same thing that led you to that intolerance at the first time. Your heart is closed and your soul is dominating, which of course is a drawback of a relationship. To heal that, work on yourself, get a therapy, try to be a tolerate person, do Yoga [Yoga is excellent in this situation]. Fill your time with pure and clear tolerant mood and be an understanding person.

10-Humiliation. Most humans are so sensitive to humiliation. Being in a relationship is supposed to make someone feel good about themselves. It should increase their confidence and self-worth. Being made to feel stupid or small is the opposite of what a relationship should do for a person. If you humiliate your partner in the public, you can prepare yourself for the break up. So never humiliate your partner, neither in private nor public. Instead, fill him or her with confidence and be sweet to them to make them feel special.
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The Power of True Love

By Nicole Anne A. Smith
A marriage is not possible without love or even if there is, the marriage will not last long. This have been a common case to individuals vowed by their parents and not by their own accord. It is really a different thing when the parents get in the way and decide for you. It may be hard for the parents to accept it, but you should decide on your own. You should choose the one you love so you must be brave to tell your parents your feelings because if not, you will end up being committed to a person you don't even love. It is not the parents that will suffer in this situation but it is you.

Trust is a key factor in having a successful married life. A relationship without this factor is nothing but trash. Arguments will occur often when a couple do not trust each other. It is because you will always doubt that your partner is not being faithful to you. In order for a couple to gain trust with each other, they should have communication. Allotting a certain amount of time for you to talk about your everyday experiences is a good exercise to gain trust to each other. You should also talk about problems you are facing in order for you to be able to materialize a solution for the problem.Not only will you gain trust but you will also understand each other. Communication can lead to knowing each others similarities and differences and also your weaknesses and strengths. Knowing all of these, you can help each other overcome your weaknesses and cope with your differences.

The best factor that affects good relationship is love. To think that even divorced people can still be reconciled, love is really very powerful. Love should be present in order to have a good and successful relationship. It is because if you really love a person, you will face even the strongest hurricanes just to be with the person you love. A marriage is said to be successful when love is in the midst of the two people involved. No matter what trials they face, still they stand firm and do not falter.

The power of love can really conquer anything. No matter what trials you will have to face, as long as there is love in your midst, they will be nothing but a piece of cake. A strong relationship is composed of good communication, trust to each other, and love. If you love a person very much and the feeling is mutual, only then can you trust. You can communicate with someone without loving her but it won't be that effective in a relationship. Everything can be ruined when even one of these factors is not present.

True love is really a powerful tool in maintaining a good relationship. Add it with trust and communication and everything will work out just fine. The only thing an individual should inculcate in his mind is that before entering in this phase of life, everything should be stable, from work to the relationship itself.
Nicole Anne A. Smith is a writer who shares information on marriage stop divorce and marriage expert as well as other similar issues.

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Top 10 Dating Mistakes Pt. 1

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There indeed exists some attitudes of ours that, as a matter of fact borne out of surveys, eventually undermine the initiations of relationships as well as it’s sustainability. Below I discuss five of them, I shall discuss the remaining five in subsequent posts. Happy reading.

1.   Game playing:

This strategy is usually employed for one of two reasons. The first is to protect one's ego. When it comes to dating, everyone, on some level,

fears rejection. Playing it cool and not getting too involved may make you feel safe, but you risk coming across as aloof or remote, and may

turn the other person off. Balance between demonstrating interest and maintaining your composure is best. Another reason people play

games is to get something you want that you wouldn't likely get if you played it straight. For example, telling someone you love him or her so

they will sleep with you, and then not calling them again. This form of manipulation is simply unacceptable (to put it mildly), and does not

lead to healthy relationships. You will get further in less time in finding a relationship if you allow yourself to be genuine. It's OK to put your

best foot forward, and also to be a bit cautious, but have the courage to be upfront and show who you are.

2. Talking too much about your ex:

While this information will eventually be shared at least to some extent, it shouldn't be discussed in detail during the initial phase of a

relationship. You want to get to know the person and each have a chance for a fresh start. Carrying old baggage into a new relationship

amounts to clutter. If you have baggage, then best to work it out in individual therapy before pursuing a new relationship, at least to a point

where it isn't affecting your reactions and clouding your judgment.

2.   Fantasizing about the future:

While men are typically (not always) the masters of game playing, women have this one down pat. When you catch yourself trying on his last

name before the third date, it's time to remind yourself to slow down. In the first 3-6 months of a relationship, you are likely running on

oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate. It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with “falling in love.” This might

as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those

lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly. Until you have time to really get to know someone, and see him or her in a wide

range of situations, it is helpful to not get ahead of yourself; don't strongly attach to some illusion that you have created about the person.

This can lead to pitfalls of setting up unrealistic expectations and subsequent disillusionment, or depression if the relationship doesn't work

out.

3.   Obsessing over details:

This one is common with those who worry. The worry may be a general habit, but now it is turned on the subject of the relationship: worry

about what the other person said, worry about what they meant by it, worry about how you reacted, worry about the relationship not working

out, worry about what if it does work out, how will your parents react…on and on. Being anxious is a mood killer, and will not make you

attractive to a potential mate. But don't go worrying about that! Try to tap into your self-confidence and trust that if the relationship is meant

to work out, it will.

4.   Ignoring red flags:

If someone doesn't show up when you’re supposed to meet, that's a red flag. If they don’t let you call them at home, yep, red flag. If they

kick their dog, bingo, red flag. Of course, there are more subtle warnings that one may be tempted to overlook, especially if one is eager for

the relationship to work out. While one shouldn't jump to conclusions without sufficient evidence on the first problem that arises, an emerging

pattern is not something to make excuses for or brush under the rug. Address these problems early, and don't waste your time.

        Watch out for the concluding post. Let me know your take on the above discussed, you can email me at Boodogay@gmail.com or comment on my Facebook wall. I wish you all successful relationships. Remain blessed.

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